A Torah Pursuant Relational Maturity Community Model.
A phrase that could sound intimidating to some may be enticing to others. What does it mean and why is it distinct? If you have spent any time with us or in reading material on our site you may have already noticed that many topics pertain to relationships as well as to maturity. There is also a model for understanding the various stages that a community or fellowship group is in. We have found this to have great bearing on what approaches can apply to shepherding and decision making in general.
Let’s look at the four aspects of this phrase.
Torah Pursuant. When studying from a Hebraic perspective to understand the roots of our faith in Messiah Yeshua, one will often see the term, Torah observant, meaning that the people or community referred to are observing the commandments of Scriptures as in the Torah. Strictly speaking "Torah" would be the first five books of the Bible, but is often used as a general term for all of what Christian's have called the "Old Testament." We view it as inclusive of all of His teachings on righteousness. In our case, since most of us did not grow up in a family that observed Torah, we wish to acknowledge that we are aware that we have a great deal to learn and so are pursuing a Torah obedient lifestyle, rather than representing ourselves as "already there."
Relational: it is our understanding that Torah cannot be adequately observed without the context of community and the relationships that exist there. Since our Elohim is Himself, relational, we really couldn’t even begin to understand Him as much as we do without also knowing something of the quality of relationships among His people. His ways include recognition of position, family relationships, age, and growing relationship with YHWH. The relationships that reflect Messiah and His Word are very different in quality than those of people with other belief systems or lack of belief. It is in our relationships that the “rubbing” or “bruising” of one another occurs that leads to our sharpening. However, as one well known American Messianic leader put it, sadly, “our iron sharpening iron process can look more like a brawl with lead pipes.” Therefore it cannot be simply being in relationship with one another that can adequately encourage and exhort.
Maturity: as you will see in the community definition below, we believe that an understanding of the steps of maturing and appropriate age and stage expectations helps us define the relationships. It also helps us establish who is well enough equipped to offer wise counsel and who is still learning. All too often, people who are still at an earlier stage of maturity than their actual chronological age are trying to or being coerced into providing service that they are not yet equipped to offer. There are many different aspects to maturity from physical to psychological to emotional to spiritual. The overall summary form that we have chosen as a model is “The Life Model TM. “ This model has been a basis for both personal and corporate consideration, providing both ideals of maturity stages and how the family or community can help each person grow where needed.
Those who developed the Life Model are Christian Believers but not Torah pursuant, and in fact, in some ways opposed to observance of Torah. This has led them to develop some understandings that, to us, seem to contradict the importance of the Whole Word. Yet we remain convinced of the basic truths that this model helps us to address as we walk out Torah together, striving to grow toward maturity in Messiah. The Community Teaching Moments are short pieces in which a particular situation is examined through the eyes of the stages of maturity; putting forth a brief description of what a response from each stage might be. They are meant to provide a “snapshot” of behaviors that will help people apply the facts. They are also intended as conversation starters for groups that want to explore and apply maturity concepts in their fellowship group. Because we are Torah pursuant, some topics are included that wouldn’t come up in other venues.
Community: we have developed a description--
A multi-generational group of interdependent, like-minded people with a clear, stable identity based in YHWH, mutually defined and articulated as in a growing organism, with structure, authority, and boundaries; generally based in recognition of attained maturity,
and the shared goal of set-apart living in daily interaction;
an interdependent network of covenant relationships based in Echad with Messiah Yeshua.
This definition was arrived at through a rather lengthy community wide discussion and analysis of what we understand we are called to do. It remains an ideal and one that I have found needs to be revisited and articulated periodically. It is so easy to fall back into a more worldly idea of how people relate to one another. Most people’s church backgrounds did not include so much attention to the quality of all relationships all the time, 24/7, in much the same way that walking out the moedim/appointed times/Feasts is more encompassing than the Sunday Christmas/Easter form of faith expression can be. In fact, because of the comprehensive nature of this model/halacha and its bearing throughout all daily aspects of life, some people get concerned that it is “too much” commitment. There is further discussion of what these topics mean as well as to the four levels of community we have identified here.
So there you have it. An effort to simplify and explain four primary aspects of what we understand it means to be a Set Apart people to our Elohim, a Torah Pursuant Relational Maturity Community halacha.
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Some of the other materials we draw from include:
Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend
CoDependent No more by Melodie Beattie
Reactivity by Phil DeLuca
Drama Triangles by Dr. Stephen Karpman
Since June, 2013, we have understood that we are to be praying around our community gatherings prior to worship and study as Nehemiah stood with those rebuilding the wall around Jerusalem. As each family built up the portion nearest them, so do we see that each part of the Body of Messiah is to be building up His Kingdom by tending to strengthening their part. An article in the Prepare The Bride series is forthcoming for more detail.
Verbal Logical Explainer
by Dr. Karl Lehman
This Teaching available on DVD has been instrumental in our growth in understanding of personal experiences that have left behind an impression or belief that interferes with our ability to respond appropriately in new situations that seem like the old one.